Kit 08
For parents
If you’re here for your child, you’re doing the work. Some of this may feel familiar from your own life.
Getting your child evaluated
Start with your pediatrician, a child psychologist, or a developmental pediatrician, and ask specifically about ADHD assessment. A quick office visit isn’t enough on its own. A real evaluation looks at your child across settings and pulls a few things together:
- 1Input from you. Parent rating scales and a history of what you see at home, going back over time.
- 2Input from school. Teacher questionnaires, since focus and behavior often show up differently in the classroom than they do at home.
- 3The whole picture. How your child is doing socially, emotionally, and academically, not just whether they can sit still.
- 4Ruling other things out. Sleep, anxiety, learning differences, even hearing or vision can all look like ADHD. A good clinician checks first.
School support: 504 vs. IEP
Your child’s evaluation report is the key that unlocks formal support at school. There are two kinds, and knowing the difference saves you months.
504 plan
Accommodations that remove barriers: extended time, seating near the teacher, movement breaks, reduced-distraction testing. Easier to qualify for and lighter to set up.
IEP (Individualized Education Program)
A more involved plan for specialized instruction and services, with measurable goals and regular review. A higher bar to qualify, but more support when it applies.
Try this
Request it in writing. A short email to the school asking to evaluate your child for a 504 plan or an IEP starts a formal timeline the school has to follow. Keep a copy of everything you send.
What helps at home
You can’t out-organize ADHD for your child, but you can build a home that works with their wiring instead of against it.
- Make the invisible visible. Shared calendars, checklists, and visual routines beat verbal reminders that evaporate.
- Break big tasks into the next small step, and body-double the hard ones by sitting alongside your child while they do them.
- Praise effort and specifics, not just results. Kids with ADHD hear a lot of correction, so balance it on purpose.
- Protect sleep, movement, and food. They move focus and mood more than most parents expect.
The questions parents ask
“Did I cause this?”
No. ADHD is one of the most heritable conditions there is, not a result of parenting, screens, or sugar. What you do now shapes how your child learns to work with it, and that’s where your energy is best spent.
“Isn’t my child too young for a label?”
A diagnosis isn’t a label that limits them. It’s an explanation that unlocks support and helps everyone stop treating a wiring difference like a behavior problem.
“What about medication?”
That’s a conversation for your child’s prescriber, and their call, not something to settle from the internet. If it comes up, finding the right fit is normal trial and error. Bring your questions to the appointment.
One diagnosis, sometimes two
Field note
A lot of parents recognize themselves in a child’s questionnaire. Because ADHD runs in families, that mirror is common, not a coincidence, and plenty of adults get their own answer this way. If that’s you, kit 01 is a good next stop.
Resources for parents
CHADD for parentsResources
Guidance on parenting, school, and behavior, plus local parent chapters.
chadd.org ↗
Understood.orgResources
Practical, parent-friendly guides on learning and attention differences, school rights, and everyday strategies.
understood.org ↗
ADDitude for parentsResources
Expert-reviewed articles on parenting, school plans, and family life with ADHD.
additudemag.com ↗
Source: CHADD; Understood.org; Faraone & Larsson (2019); U.S. Department of Education